Why your love language should be the priority in determining relationships

-


I remember a friend who told me how, on their anniversary, he surprised his wife by decorating their apartment with roses, real ones.
There were rose bouquets, rose banners, rose petals in the wine ice bucket everything.
When his wife came home, she was shocked then she started sneezing uncontrollably. Too late, my friend realized his wife was allergic to certain kinds of flowers, and those roses were one of them. Then she told him: “Thank you, but if you love me, please get rid of all these flowers.”
And for the rest of the night, he hauled roses out of their apartment while his wife had to spend the night at a friend’s house. When Love Goes Unappreciated Have you ever given a huge show of love to a woman, like buying her an expensive gift, or doing her a huge favor that took a lot of effort, or giving her a big hug but she didn’t seem to appreciate it nearly as much as you expected her to? That’s painful. And it’s inexplicable you can’t explain why she would NOT appreciate something like that, and so you conclude that she doesn’t love you after all. Careful, though. It’s never good to jump to conclusions, especially when it comes to love and relationships.
Here’s why: Her “love language” might be different from yours. What your first date should look like.

 what is a love Language?

In case you haven’t heard of the five love languages before, they were developed and put forward by Gary Chapman in his 1995 book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.



Chapman claims that there are five “love languages,” or preferred ways to express love to a romantic partner. These are:

1. words of affirmation: This is when you show love by expressing it verbally, through compliments, or by thanking her for the smallest gestures.

2. Gift: this is when you show your love by giving her gifts, big or small. This love language is where “the thought counts” the most.

3. Act of service: This is when you show your love by DOING things for her. You take out the trash, you wash the dishes for her, or you let her take a nap while you take care of the baby.

4. Qualitytime: This is when you show your love by spending quality time with her. You’re fully present you give her your undivided attention while she tells you about her day, about what’s
bothering her, and about her opinions in life.

5. Physical touch: This is when you show your love by hugging her, kissing her, tickling her, playing “tag,” or making passionate love to her. 


Chapman claims that every person has one primary love language and one secondary love language. Now, scientifically, Chapman’s claims can’t really be proven. But his book has remained popular for more than 20 years, and countless happy couples swear by it so it would be unwise to disregard the power of love languages.


What love languages mean for your relationship

The key takeaway is this: There isn’t just one way to express love. There are many.
And if you express your love in your preferred love language and your woman doesn’t seem to appreciate it as much as you expected then it’s probably because she doesn’t speak the same love language as you. That’s also true of her. If she expresses her love in her preferred love language and you don’t show as much appreciation as she expects then she might resent it and feel unloved.
So you’ll need to do two things: Observe her closely and find out what her primary love language is. You might even ask her directly if she has a preferred love language Chapman’s book has been around long enough that the idea of “love languages” is fairly common knowledge.
You also need to communicate to her what YOUR preferred love language(s) are. Simply knowing what each other’s languages are just might save your relationship one day. So check yourself, and check your woman as well. What love languages do you speak? What adjustments do you need to make?

The power of Exploration 




 If you’ve never traveled in your life or if you’ve been stuck in one place for way too long then you’ve probably feel the allure of leaving it all behind and seeing the world with no map. Must be fun to travel the world with absolute
freedom, huh? If you’ve ever felt that urge, then let me tell you two things. First of all, travel is awesome. Nothing opens the mind like it. So if you ever get the opportunity to see the world, do so. It’s one of the best things you’ll ever
do in life. And secondly, never EVER travel “without a map.” That’s just nuts.
I’ve tried it before myself, and it was hell. I got lost, I got mugged, and I spent a short time locked up abroad. It was a nightmare. Today, I still travel. But this time I bring a map with me. I study my
destinations. I make a plan for my trip. And I take all the stuff I’ll ever need.
And as a result, I enjoy every trip I make to the fullest. I never get lost, I never get mugged, and I never spend a minute of my time stuck anywhere I don’t want to be.

Applying the rules to your love life




Guess what?
The same rule applies to your love life.
This post has given you a “map” of the dating game of all the most important “destinations” to consider. It has also given you the means to create a plan of action one that will slowly, steadily build the love life of your dreams for you. And it has given you the skills you need to develop to achieve your goals in the shortest time and the least effort. If you put what you’ve learned in this book into action, then you won’t “get lost.”
You’ll never get robbed of what you really want in life, nor of what you could truly be as a man.
And you’ll never get “locked up” in a situation you don’t want to be.
And instead, you’ll enjoy women, the dating game, and your relationships to the fullest. And there’s no substitute for that. Go ahead you have the map. Now go explore the world. Onwards and upwards.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

8 Flirty Conversation For The Pros

-
Image
Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential part of human interaction. Anthological research shows that flirting is to be found in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world. Flirting is a basic instinct part of human nature: this is not surprising that if we did not initiate contacts and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction and the human species would become extinct. Being able to express yourself clearly and being able to listen well can help you avoid a great deal of stress in your closest relationship. Unfortunately, we are more likely to communicate ineffectively with our partner especially just at the time when most we need to get our point across. In fact, communication itself is often a major source of difficulty. When we feel pressure we may not keep our partner up to date. Often, we fail to listen properly because we are preoccupied. But effectively communicating our ideas and f...
Read more

All You Need to Know About Life Style And Behavioral Entanglement

-
Image
Life style is closely related to patterns of behavior. Ansbacher argues that this might be the case because the term is so easily convertible to the term style of living which could imply that the response to stimuli and the usage of objects - and therefore behavior - will be in accordance with the life style. Linking this behavioral aspect to the above mentioned unifying aspect would imply that the response styles of people should be fairly similar within a certain life style. Equalizing life style and style of living could also imply that a pattern of behavior is life style instead of being the result of it. Lifestyle versus relationship The important question is then just how tight the relationship between life style and behavior really is. Is life style behavior or is it merely reflected in behavior? According to Adler life style is not the same as behavior. Life style guides behavior which consists of thoughts, emotions and actions. Still, observing behavior seems to be the only w...
Read more

How to think like a leader and accept responsibilities

-
Image
 “Think like a Leader; Take actions”. Defining who a leader is or what a leader does is pretty well a waste(of words and time), as we know quite well the roles attached to being called a leader; the one we see as dominant in thinking and processing of thoughts, to us. The one we seek his knowledge and teachings based on his experience, to avoid missteps and misguidance, a journey of life free of mistakes; a point to note, “mistake-free”— does not literally mean a life well spent without mistakes, but worth looking back to with little or no effect. So, the question should be;  Why should we be the Leaders of tomorrow when we have now, today, to accomplish whatever we want in accomplishment? When does our action speak for us when we are considered a Leader and the adverse effect? Why should a population of 887 million people of different gender and thinking listen to us as we speak on the podium of excellence, academically or Psychologically, to make impact and alter their think...
Read more

Why you Should not consider Dating While Separated

-
Image
  Should I date once i am separated? " what number times have I detected that question? And, what number of times have I given a tough answer?. " if you are not free to marry, you're not free to date!. the fifth guidpost regarding reconciliation is to not date awhilst in separation time.  It goes a long way to express that dating without any intentions of marriage is usually a waste. Its like going on a bus without destination. Wasteful resources, time and most especially life is what it will result to. The purpose output must speak for any action. You have to consider the result of something before going for it, if not, you are just pouring wanted in empty basket. "It is what it is". There must be justification for any possible action. Always Justify your actions  If you are not free to marry, you are not free to date. I first saw this statement in Britton Wood's book "single adults want to be the church". it shows that he has lived with sep...
Read more

When and how should you move out of your parent home?

-
Image
More and more adults are moving back in with thier parents after university. Learn how to decide when, where and how to move out. Moving out of one’s parent home is a huge significance understanding of the next line of action after the maturity stage. Maturity is the state of debt obligations that is paramount to some age groups once all interest and any applicable fees have accrued to the principal. After university, it is worthy of note that moving out of your parent home should be the next line of action. By doing this, it will give you the opportunity of autonomous capacity in dealing with things as it come with pride and satisfaction. Its best to spend less than 50% of your take-home pay on housing. Don't forget utilities   • As you think about your housing budget, don't forget cost like utilities and transportation. Cost of utilities are things you need to consider when thinking of your budget, because they are the things that determine whether you are even doing ...
Read more

THE PROS AND CONS OF BUYING AND LEASING A CAR

-
Image
Users learn how to think through whether they need a car and the tradeoffs between buying and leasing.  Some people find leasing more appealing than buying a car because of some advantages they derive from it while some prefer buying to leasing. Alright! let's see the pros and cons of leasing or buying a car so as to ascertain the one that is most preferable. BUYING A CAR  it is understandable that when you buy a car, you own it outright and you are responsible for the car and finance it's full value. It also extend the temerity of use management, unlike leasing a car when you have to maintain the car before your terms of use. Buying a car can be most convenient when you understand your financial circumstances that is at stake compare to leasing the car. It boils down to the maintenance and ability to finance other basic needs after buying the car. The pros and cons is the ultimate guide to the purchasing initiative to buying a car. Do you wanna know? Now you have it...
Read more

What Your First Date Should Look Like

-
Image
The dating stage is the essential comfort-building stage in the courtship process. It’s where your “game” comes into play. Your goal should be to give her such a great experience dating you she goes and tells her friends: “There’s something about him I can’t explain it I’ve never felt like this before in my life.” Keep in mind that when a woman agrees to go on a date with you, it means she already sees you as an option. You’re a potential lover. so don’t blow it! The first rule of the first date is to NOT plan anything extravagant and instead keep things simple and straightforward. Here are a few things you should NOT do on the first date: Don’t take her to a dinner, coffee, or similar situation where you just talk and do nothing else. I call this the “sales pitch” date, and it’s as boring as it sounds. Don’t take her to a concert or a movie. In some ways, these can be worse than “sales pitch” dates because you can’t even talk it’s too loud. Don’t take her on a lunch date that’s a stra...
Read more

How To Understand The Right Business.

-
Image
  Success, in any particular business, depends for one thing upon your possession in a well developed state and faculty requires in that business.   Without good musical faculty no one can succeed as a teacher of music; without well developed mechanical faculties no one can achieve great success in any of the mechanical trades; without tact and the commercial faculties no one can succeed in mechantile pursuit. But to possess in a well developed state the faculties required in your particular vocation does not insure getting rich. There are musicians who have remarkable talent, and who yet remain poor; there are blacksmiths, carpenters, and so on who have excellent mechanical ability, but who do not get rich; and there are merchants with good faculties for dealing with men who nevertheless, failed. The different faculties are tools; it is essential to have good tools, but it is also essential that the tools should be used in the right way. One man can take a sharp saw, a squar...
Read more

3 Things Your Girl Always Wants From You And How To Do It Like A Badass

-
Image
One of the things your girl will ultimately demand from you without any cost are the listed things here... The things you do that will make your girl want to be with you at all time and at all cost no matter the circumstances  are the three things listed here. Your girl will never leave you if these things are your watch words and your daily mantra. You wanna know? Don't stray!!! Treat her like a queen  Let us move onto what we like hearing. I’m not discussing all  these topics because I like to hear myself think. Though it is quite nice sometimes. Really, I think  all men could learn from these dating suggestions brought to you by a female. That being said  when I was dating I loved it when the guy paid attention to me, and only me. Try not to stare at  the waitress, or the butt of the girl in front of you on the street. Treat your lady like a queen.  Because chivalry has sadly started to die. Eight out of ten times I have to struggle with a door with...
Read more

WHAT ARE THE SECRETS TO GETTING RICH?

-
Image
Have you ever wonder on how people around you accumulate wealth in just a step?  Warning!! If you don't want to brush off your penurious life or existence, if you don't want to lift up to your utmost desire in life; do not read. This content is intended for men and women whose most pressing need is for money; who which to get rich fast and philosophize afterward. It is for those who have, so far, found neither the time, the means, nor the opportunity to go deeply into the study of metaphysics, but who wants result and who are willing to take the conclusion of science as a basic for action, without going into all processes by which those conclusions were reached. It is expected of the reader of this content should take the statement upon faith, by so doing it will prove their truth by acting upon them without fear or hesitation. Every man or women who does this will certainly get rich; for the logic I'm about to give you is an exact science and failure is impossible. In writ...
Read more