What Women Really Want In Relationship

How many healthy and successful relationships do you see out there? In the UK, 40% of marriages end in divorce. In the US, it’s even worse 50% of marriages don’t last ‘til death do they part.

Worst of all, these staggering statistics don’t even count the toxic relationships couples who stay together “for the kids” or simply because they

can’t afford the divorce costs. Why are so many relationships so unhealthy and unsuccessful?.

 Two reasons:

First, the world suffers from a lack of real men. Fathers and husbands aren’t “showing up.” They’re not taking responsibility.

And their kids grow up not knowing what it takes to lead a happy, successful relationship and so the cycle infects their generation, too.

Now, if you did all the exercises in Part I of this book, then this reason shouldn’t be a problem for you. You’re on your way to becoming a real man,

and as long as you stay on the rails, you’ll do fine.

It’s the second reason you’ll need to worry about now. Before you read this, you need to understand the 5 love languages . 

The second reason why so many relationships are NOT working out is this:

Men don’t know what women want.

What do women REALLY want?

If you get your knowledge about women from mass media or from what they SAY they want or what your friends say about women. Then you're in a bit of trouble.

Never Take Advice About Women from Women

Have you ever experienced this?. A woman says she wants a “kind, loyal, hardworking gentleman” but she ends up dating an abusive deadbeat.

Or a woman gives you her number, but she never calls.

Or a woman acts coldly towards you, so you stop giving her attention only to receive angry texts about why you’re ignoring her.

Learn the lesson if you haven’t yet: Women NEVER say what they want. At least they can never articulate it truthfully and honestly, this is not necessarily done maliciously.

My question to you is, how many times have you heard a woman say that she wants a kind gentleman who wines and dines her, only to find that she ends up with the complete opposite.

Women have an idea of what they think they want, BUT what they are actually attracted to, is a different thing entirely.

As you’ll learn later in this book, women might nudge you in the direction they want you to take them. But never take dating advice from them.

Do All Women Lie?

Being direct, “keeping it 100,” your word of honor these are all masculine concepts.

Women follow different rules. For women, feelings are more reliable than facts.

Now, that’s not saying they don’t speak logically. They can, and when they’re in a positive state of mind, they often do. But when they’re upset or emotional, facts fly out the window, and the only thing they trust are their own feelings.

Here’s an example. Once, I told an ex-girlfriend I was taking her out to get some Chinese food.

She told me: “No, I don’t like Chinese food.”

I then took her hand, twirled her, and basically did a silly, awkward dance with her that got her laughing.

After we caught our breaths, I said: “Let’s go get some sweet and sour prawn balls.” Sure enough, she said: “Sure!” And we had some pretty good prawn balls.

Did she lie to me when she said she didn’t like Chinese food?. Of course not. She was just following her “truth” at that moment her

feelings. It’s subjective and not objective, but that’s women for you.

So here’s the basic rule: Unless she’s happy, with love burning at her core, don’t take whatever she says literally. Instead, follow your gut and trust your own judgment. Speaking of following your gut Never Listen To Your Friends’ Dating Advice

Getting dating advice from your friends is not a good idea either.

Why not?

Because your friends will tell you what they THINK is best for you.

They won’t necessary tell you what WORKS.

So as a basic rule, only get advice from friends whose relationships you want yours to be like. Otherwise, thank them for their advice but trust your gut.

So what do women really want?

Now that you know where NOT to get dating advice from, what’s the answer to our burning question? What do women REALLY want?

To get a reliable answer, you once again turn to science. Over the past 100+ years, psychology has found that women have three basic

needs in life:

1. To feel psychologically secure,

2. To feel physically protected,

3. And to feel materially provided for.

This is the “basic math” to making a woman happy for life. Make her feel all three, and she’ll love you forever; miss even just one, and she’ll only see you as one of her many options, and likely not the best one at that.

Let’s take a deeper look at each basic need in turn.

Female Need.

1.  To feel psychologically secure 

A woman needs peace of mind. She needs to know she can trust you completely. Only then can she can mentally relax and be totally herself, without the need to protect her reputation or keep up appearances.

In other words, she needs to be led by strong, purpose-driven, dominant guy someone whose passions are under his total control.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m a fan of male-female equality in the corporate world and the academe.

But I’m NOT a fan of FORCED equality, such as the kind brought about by third-wave feminism and the branding of masculinity as “toxic.”

In fact, it can be argued that half of marriages today end up in divorce BECAUSE of “progressive” ideas such as these.

These new ideas kill the polarity between masculine and feminine energies and when you undermine sexual attraction, everything else comes crashing down like a row of dominoes.

So what’s for a man to do?

Simple: Be a man. And here are some tried-and-true ways to cultivate your manhood:

Never show weakness, unless you’re at a funeral. And if you have to rant, don’t rant to your woman save it for your male friends.

Never beg or plead. Never put a woman in charge of your destiny. Follow your mission in life and live by your deepest values. If she loves you, she follows you.

Live by the mantra: “It’s my way or the highway.” While you should never walk away from your responsibilities, you SHOULD have the strength to walk away from a woman who tries to control you.

 

2. To feel physically protected

 

This need is biologically hard-wired into all healthy women in the world. Throughout our history, women have always been the physically weaker sex. They’ve always been preyed upon by wild animals, rival tribes, and evil men. As a result, the best situation a woman can put herself in has always been under the protection of a strong, capable man. This man should have the strength and the resources to protect her and her children.

Today, of course, there’s much less risk of danger to women. But remember, this is a biologically hard-wired need. Women still need to see that “killer” in you. You can show this “killer instinct” either by fiercely protecting your family

against the dangers of society or by ravishing your woman in bed or both.

In other words, it’s not enough to be big and strong you’ll also need to hold an erection long enough and give her one climax after another.

 3. To feel materially provided for

Are all women gold diggers?

At some level, sure. But not all women are EVIL gold diggers, who are only In it for the money.

Instead, it’s yet another biological and practical need. Biologically, I don’t think any woman wants to marry a deadbeat guy.

If she uses your money to raise your kids, then that’s a good thing. If she uses your money only on herself, then that’s a bad thing.

So my advice: Find a way to earn much more than your family needs but stay in charge of your finances. Don’t let your woman control your money that’s just asking for trouble.

So there you have it a woman’s three deepest needs.

How ready are you to meet each need?

How much work do you need to do?

Write it down, make a plan, and make it happen.